What's Wrong With A Little Porn?

A little while ago I called an old friend to say hello, andexperienced if he was caught with another woman.
the conversation turned to my involvement in helpingAnother wife of a man who struggles with sex
the sexually broken. After I shared of my 20 yearaddiction writes: My husband and I have been married
struggle with sex addiction, my friend said "well, I'm nofor a little over one year. He had a problem with
sex addict, I'm just a casual porn user!"pornography and has now been clean for over two
Today there are many who call themselves "casualyears. To this day I struggle with the pain of this, and I
porn users", or CPUs as I call them. They indulge indon't know how to recover. I ask God to take the pain
porn occasionally, maybe just a few times a year soaway so that we might be intimate without me
they don't see a problem with it. After all it's justremembering what he has done. I have forgiven him
pictures and no one else will see; how can anyone getbut I hurt so much. I will never be that picture, and how
hurt?do I know he doesn't expect me to? I am to be loved,
In Matthew 5:27 Jesus said: You have heard that itand how am I to satisfy a husband who can be
was said 'You shall not commit adultery' but I say tosatisfied by a picture of some fantasy woman I will
you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust fornever be, a picture of someone who will never be his
her has already committed adultery with her in hiswife? Men should know that if they have a wife, or
heart.plan to get married someday that it really does hurt
From Jesus' piercing words we know that to lust afterher. My husband has grieved with me over the pain I
other women or men is to commit emotional andhave. Believe it or not it affects our sex life, and I can't
spiritual adultery. Having self-sex while looking atkeep it from entering my head...every time.
pictures of naked women is taking this sin of adulteryOne of the biggest lies Satan whispers is "a little lust
to the next level; it's adding sexual experience to lust,won't hurt you; go ahead, its just you and pictures. No
pouring gas on the fire.one will know." The truth is that "just a little porn" is
What might your wife say if you approached her andplaying a big part in taking out many marriages. At a
said "honey, this year I'm going to commit adultery just2003 meeting of the American Academy of
three times. Once this month, again in July and one lastMatrimonial Lawyers, two thirds of the 350 divorce
time in December. But I won't touch anyone, I'm justlawyers who attended said Internet porn contributed to
going to masturbate to pictures of other nakedmore than half of the divorce cases they handled.
women. But it's just me and pictures and I won'tThey also said that "pornography had an almost
actually have sex with another person. Okay?"non-existent role in divorce just seven or eight years
Obviously your wife would be angry and deeply hurt.ago."
Why? Because she knows true love comes from theMy friend, you may not be a sex addict, but if you're
heart, and you're taking your love, which you'vedabbling in porn you're committing adultery and hurting
promised is hers alone, and giving it to another.your wife. You're also hollowing out your soul and
I know one wife who walked in on her husband whilewasting your character. "Casual porn use" is little
he was masturbating with with porn. Seeing herdifferent from sexual addiction, and it may be worse.
husband having sex with himself, with pornographicThose who struggle with sex addiction often hit a hard
magazines spread out on the floor in front of himbottom fast, which forces them to get help quicker. I've
broke her heart. The trauma this couple went throughseen Casual Porn Users who've taken their sin well
was little different from what they would haveinto middle age. It doesn't need to be this way...