| Getting over your ex is something that most of us | | | | if it's just a friend who will listen to you for a while. |
| have to do at some point in our life. Some people | | | | Blow off steam - it's natural. |
| more than others. When the ex means a divorce in | | | | 6. Cleanse your current situation by buying new things |
| involved then the break up is all the more harder. | | | | for the house. New bedding and kitchen utensils are |
| It is said that time is a great healer and that is true, but | | | | something you use every day. Get new items. Your |
| also taking action is vital. Just what action should you | | | | life is still going to go on so distance yourself from the |
| take? | | | | things you used with your ex. It will work wonders for |
| Here is some practical advice to deal with life after a | | | | you. |
| break up, relationship break down or divorce. | | | | 7. Give yourself time to heal. You don't need to rush |
| 1. Make a clean break. As tempting as it can be, if you | | | | into a new relationship until your ready. Advice given to |
| are still in love with your EX, and they don't reciprocate | | | | me as I was going through my divorce was to 'clear |
| the feelings and intensity, then you're better off making | | | | the decks emotionally.' Superb advice, you don't need |
| a clean break. This is true every time. Ex lover rarely | | | | to rebound till its right for you. |
| make good friends after a break up. | | | | 8. Eliminate any negative self-talk. It's easy to feel sorry |
| 2. Delete all telephone numbers, email address and the | | | | for yourself after a break up. It can help you only for a |
| like that contain your ex's details. Keeping temptation at | | | | very short while at the beginning. If you keep talking |
| bay is vital. | | | | yourself down then you'll find it harder to move on |
| 3. Clear out as many personal items as you can. | | | | when the time is right for you. |
| Obviously keeping practical stuff is important, but, if | | | | 9. Take charge of your life again. Make goals. Set |
| you're using your ex's left behind items to remember | | | | yourself challenges. Maybe you always wanted to |
| them, then that's no good. Clear them out as soon as | | | | abseil or jump from a plane. Maybe learning yoga could |
| possible. | | | | be right for you. The world is your oyster. |
| 4. Treat yourself. Make sure you get used to enjoying | | | | 10. Take comfort in the fact that it does get better |
| yourself without your ex partner. Prove to yourself, | | | | each day. Say to yourself 'every day in every way I'm |
| your ex and others that you can smile again in spite of | | | | getting better and better and better.' It's true and most |
| the circumstances. A divorce doesn't mean you can't | | | | people who have been divorced will tell you that |
| laugh a lot. | | | | suddenly one day you realise that the rest of your life |
| 5. Let your frustrations, anger and bitterness come out. | | | | can easily be the best of your life. |
| Write down your feeling or get some counselling. Even | | | | |