| "I've been well for eight years now, I think | | | | How can I really screw this day up as much as |
| I'll be sick for a few months, and let | | | | possible?" At each moment in time it is safe |
| someone else have all the wellness." | | | | to assume that all of us are making the best |
| | | | possible decisions we can to benefit |
| Ridiculous, isn't it? You never feel guilty | | | | ourselves, our loved ones, etc |
| that you are well while others are sick, do | | | | |
| you? Because you understand that you cannot | | | | Do you recognise yourself in any of these |
| deprive another of an energy, an experience. | | | | themes? |
| Yet many of us carry around some version of | | | | |
| guilt or unworthiness not so far away from | | | | As far as I am concerned, regardless of what |
| this. | | | | you have done (or not done), you are a |
| | | | wonderful human being, every bit as deserving |
| As you know, guilt and unworthiness are some | | | | of abundance in all its forms from the |
| of the lowest energies we can carry around as | | | | universe as the baby born next to you in the |
| human beings. They deprive us of our natural | | | | hospital. We are all born with a life, a |
| sense of deservingness, and prevent the | | | | chance, and a spirit. The baggage we pick up |
| natural flow of the world's abundance in our | | | | along the way, in the form of beliefs, |
| direction. I speak of true abundance such as | | | | emotional trauma, stress, etc will attempt to |
| love, internal peace, spiritual freedom. | | | | convince you otherwise. But we all came from |
| | | | the same place. And carrying around a whole |
| When divorce, death, or tragedy appear in | | | | other person or event on your shoulders isn't |
| someone else's life, do you jump quickly to | | | | going to benefit you or anyone else. It's |
| blame them for their misfortune? Well, | | | | just not useful. |
| self-blame is no better than blaming someone | | | | |
| else. | | | | You can choose peace instead of where you are |
| | | | at. You can choose to be happy rather than |
| May I offer some advice? | | | | right. You can choose to reconsider the |
| | | | decision you made about yourself when it |
| - You can never be hungry enough to feed one | | | | happened. |
| single starving child. | | | | |
| | | | All of this reminds me of a wonderful story I |
| - You can never be angry enough to change | | | | want to share with you. |
| what happened. | | | | |
| | | | A man visited a friend who was terminally ill |
| - You can never be sorry enough to give up | | | | and dying. He tried to comfort her, but it |
| your innocence, deservingness, and right to | | | | seemed hopeless. |
| abundance. | | | | |
| | | | "I'm lost," she said. "I've ruined my life |
| Likewise you can never be poor enough to help | | | | and every life around me. I'm headed for |
| the impoverished thrive. It is ONLY in your | | | | Hell. There is no hope for me." |
| thriving that you have enough of ANYTHING to | | | | |
| offer ANYONE. So why not love and respect | | | | "Who is that?" the man asked, pointing to a |
| yourself anyway, regardless, and without | | | | framed picture of a pretty girl on the |
| judgement. | | | | woman's dresser. |
| | | | |
| If your self-love tank is running low, and | | | | The woman brightened. "She's my daughter-the |
| you are still giving freely of yourself or | | | | one beautiful thing in my life." |
| your energy to others, you HAVE NO BUSINESS | | | | |
| DOING SO, and are only requesting the | | | | "Would you help her if she was in trouble? |
| universe to supply you with future | | | | Would you still love her, no matter what?" |
| resentment, anger, or frustration. It is one | | | | |
| of the fastest routes to the emotional | | | | "Of course I would!" the woman exclaimed. |
| poorhouse, and not the way to help anyone. | | | | "Why would you even ask such a question?" |
| Taking on too much simply reinforces your own | | | | |
| opinion that YOU are not deserving of time, | | | | "Because I want you to understand," explained |
| energy, freedom, peace etc, and becomes a | | | | her friend, "that God has a picture of you on |
| template for your own future behaviour. | | | | His dresser." |
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| If you feel guilty about a specific event, | | | | And if, after all this, you are still being |
| were you doing the best you could? Given your | | | | hard on yourself, remember... even a broken |
| resources, age, beliefs, inner wisdom, | | | | clock is right twice a day. |
| upbringing, circumstances? I mean, who gets | | | | |
| out of the bed in the morning saying "Hey! | | | | Just helping. |