Masculinity & Modern Women

The inclusion of women in the workforce has broughtAustralian Bureau of Statistics provide proof of the
tremendous advancements to our society as a whole.changes on a much larger scale:
However, it has also changed the dating scene.- 1/3 of all marriages now end within five years.
Until a few decades ago, a stereotypical role for- In 1976, marriage rates for the entire population were
women in a Western society was to take care of the63 in every 1,000 men and 61 in every 1,000 women.
home and rearing of any offspring, while the men wentBy 2001, this had declined to 31 and 28 respectively.
out and worked.Not surprisingly, men - after having complete control of
Because of this, most women had no source ofthe reign for millions of years - are a little intimidated by
income and depended entirely on men for their meansall of these changes.
and survival, which created a definite need forIn addition to being intimidated by these changes, men
marriage to exist and to work.are also increasingly unsure about how to behave
Fast forward to 2007 and women are working inaround modern women in social situations.
powerful positions in society, which often requireOne of the main reasons has been the prevalence of
traditionally masculine behaviours and psychology:socially masculine behaviour by women. To illustrate
- Leadership of others.the point, here is an example of masculine behaviour in
- Assertiveness.action:
- Decisions based on logic, rather than feelings.If a group of friends are sitting together at a cafe and
- Direct communication.one of the women wants to leave, she will traditionally
TV shows like Sex and they City have done anstructure her language in a feminine, indirect way to
excellent job of characterizing a new generation ofavoid taking on leadership of the men and women.
women who:"Guys, I'm getting bored of this place."
- Often don't need the financial support of a man toShe will then usually wait for someone to respond with
survive.a suggestion that they leave the cafe. However, a
- Can spend large amounts of money on a new dressman in the group will traditionally structure his language
or shoes.in a more direct, masculine way.
- Can succeed in high-profile positions that were"Okay, let's finish our coffees and head off. I'm bored
previously dominated by men.of this place now."
- Have their own life and dreams.I use the word 'traditionally', because it's now becoming
- Put of getting married and 'settling down'.very common for women to communicate in a direct,
- Get in and out of dating relationships; often into theirmasculine way in social situations.
late 30s and 40s.As mentioned at the start of this article, the fact that
If a man turns on the radio these days, he might alsowomen have become more masculine in their
hear this new generation of women singing about howbehaviour and psychology has brought tremendous
he is no longer necessary to their survival.advancements to our society as a whole.
Ouch!It's not a bad thing at all.
Song lyrics released into the airwaves in 2006, fromBut it can be for women, when it comes to the dating
artists such as the Pussycat Dolls and Beyoncescene.
Knowles demonstrate this very well.A consistent complaint from modern women is that
Pussycat Dolls:they are rarely approached by men these days. To
"I don't need a ring around my finger to make me feelquote some of the women spoken to during the
complete...you know I got my own life...and I boughtresearch:
everything that's in it.""If a guy does work up the nerve to approach, he will
Beyonce Knowles:usually be really intimidated by me anyway...and that's
"You must not know about me. I can have anothersuch a turn off."
you in a minute. So don't you ever for a second get to"There must be something wrong with me, because
thinking you're irreplaceable."men hardly approach me."
If that's not enough to set off an alarm in the male"I am a confident girl - and yes, I'm assertive...I just need
psyche, the latest information released by thea man who is more confident than me.