Too Late to Say Good-bye? Never--thanks to the Healing Circle

It's the worst experience in the world: A loved one diesphenomena during seances to prey upon others'
without the chance to say a final good-bye. Many ofemotional vulnerability and bilk them out of lots of
those who endure such a loss suffer for decadesmoney. Avoid this issue simply by never charging for
from unfinished emotional and spiritual business broughthealing circles, instead offering them for free as a
about by the unresolved sorrow.community service.
That is what happened to a woman we will callThe conductor allows the inquirer to bring a trusted
"Clara." For twenty years she suffered a wound thatfriend or relative if the inquirer so desires. The best
refused to heal. An elementary institute teacher, Clarasize group for a healing circle is between fourand eight
was brought up in a small Russian Orthodoxpeople total. As stated earlier, participants need have
community in Pennsylvania. Her mother and fatherno formal training in using the soul or psychic senses.
were first-generation immigrants in the days when itMake every effort to include people who've never had
was not safe to proclaim a Russian heritage. Claraany instruction in using their intuition (psychic/soul
recalls being punished as a child for telling others aboutsenses) because they bring fewer expectations to the
her Russian background.session and thus often are more open to what does
"My mother denied her past and lived a facade," Claracome through.
says.Ask for Protection
When cancer claimed her mother's life, Clara felt sheThe best candidates are loving and open-minded. Don't
had never had the chance to say good-bye to her realmake the session more difficult by using it to try to
mother. After five years, she turned to three years ofprove something to that friend who thinks your interest
daily psychiatric therapy and later tried psychotherapyin this stuff means you've gone off your rocker at last.
again. The same thing happened both times. TraditionalSkepticism is fine. Denial, however, will hamstring the
therapy could help her to a certain point. Past that pointsession by blocking the information flow.
it was of no further use.One important point: the less information about the soul
"I felt a pressure that no one could help me with," shein question and the inquirer that the conductor and
says. "When your problems touch on the spiritual,other participants possess the better. This helps
traditional doctors can't do much. I had a spiritual injuryassure the inquirer that participants received their
that I couldn't ignore."information only from the soul in question and not from
Prodded by her unrelenting need, Clara was open tosome other source.
an alternative approach. Her search for healingThe inquirer always sits exactly opposite the
eventually led her to a healing circle through herconductor, who decides where everyone else will sit.
daughter, "Laura," who learned about it attending aAgain, use your soul senses to get an overall
class at the Sattva Institute.impression of the different soul energies of the
When Clara found out about the possibility ofparticipants. Then try to alternate a more masculine
contacting the dead, she asked for a healing circle,energy with a more feminine. This doesn't mean
even though Laura had some doubts. "I knew the offeralways alternate men and women. Some males have
of a healing circle was right," Clara says. "I felt it."a very gentle energy, while some women's energy is
Despite her confidence, Clara was taken aback by thestrong, more push than pull. The mix of the two helps
proceedings. "It was shocking when I realized how realbalance the energy flow around the circle.
it was."Seat the inquirer's companion immediately to the
Misunderstood and Abusedinquirer's left, so that this person may send loving
A healing circle--better known as a seance--is one ofsupport to the inquirer. Put the participant with
the most misunderstood and thus inadvertently abusedthestrongest energy to the conductor's left, so that this
of all spiritual healing practices. The very wordperson may strengthen the conductor during the
"seance" immediately brings to mind what mostsession. Instead of placing participants around a table,
consider the unreal and laughable notion of "conjuringleave the circle open and put the chairs close to each
up spirits." Derided by some, proscribed by others, theother.
healing circle tragically has degenerated into theAfter seating participants, ask them to join hands, their
seance, a casual pastime with no more apparentright palms covering the left palms of the person to
significance or meaning than a video game.their right. Make sure they are comfortable, as they
A seance begins as a lark or a joke, a way tomay spend almost an hour in this position. The
alleviate boredom, to enliven a party gone flat or toconductor then directs all present to close their eyes
satisfy idle curiosity by seeing if something's "out there."and focus on their breathing. Basic biofeedback
Then, to the astonishment, dismay, and occasional realtechniques for slowing down the breath rate are
terror of participants, they discover that there actuallyhelpful and an excellent way to calm everyone down
is someone or something "out there."and clear the mind for what's next.
A whole lot of someones or somethings.Once participants have relaxed, the conductor asks
A young woman we'll call "Tammy" found this out thethem to send out love from their hearts, down their
hard way. Scared and bewildered, Tammy phonedright arms toward the person on their right until the love
one day, seeking reassurance and an explanation offlows all the way around the circle. Ask them to use
the chilling and bizarre event she had just experienced.their soul senses to visualize that love or feel its
She and a friend had decided to use a ouija board tovibration, to be aware that it is there or simply to
contact her late grandfather. Things went fine at first.understand that it is present.
The pointer, moving on its own, spelled out theIt is this love, which is magnified considerably by group
nickname her grandfather had always called her.energy and which includes the special love of the
The pointer stopped abruptly. Something changed. Theinquirer, that will draw the soul to the circle and help
pointer moved again but no longer to any purpose, askeep it there.
though whoever or whatever was propelling it didn'tNow, conductor, you can skip almost everything else
recognize Tammy or her friend. It tried to spell out awritten so far. But heed this at least, even if you think it
word that appeared to be "help" Then it spun roundsounds silly and won't make any difference anyway.
and round in wild circles.ALWAYS ASK ALOUD FOR PROTECTION.
The young women, now terrified, ended the session.You may call this protection spirit guides, or guardian
At this point, all the tapes on top of the VCR tippedangels, or a different preferred label. Whatever you
over and spilled onto the floor. No one was evencall them is just dandy so long as you call on them.
anywhere close to the tapes when they toppled over,They respect free will and cannot act on your behalf
Tammy reported.without a request. So please please please, conductor,
Just who or what Tammy and friend encounteredalways be sure to ask aloud for each healing circle
remains fodder for a debate beyond the scope of thisparticipant's protectors to stand just outside the circle
article. Clinical evidence that some sort ofand allow in only the soul sought by the inquirer. They'll
consciousness survives physical death does exist,be delighted to comply.
however, and has been documented in exhaustiveWhat's the point of this exercise? For starters, it
detail by physicians Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, Raymondeliminates completely the kind of spook bully that
A. Moody Jr., and Melvin Morse, among others.scared the bejeezus out of Tammy and friend. Ask
The Soul is Eternal Energyfor protection and you and your companions can be
Such evidence and more strongly suggests that theabout your healing mission in peace and complete
soul exists independently of the physical body assafety.
love-energy-consciousness. The only thing we leaveThought-Energy Communication
behind at death is the physical body. That's all. AtAfter requesting protection, the conductor then tells the
physical death, the rest of self--our mental, emotional,inquirer to speak the name of the soul in question. The
and spiritual awareness--remains intact.inquirer verbalizes the soul's full name two times and a
The death of the physical body, however, does not inpet or nickname the third time.
and of itself endow the remaining awareness withSometimes, the soul hesitates to enter the circle
wisdom or ultimate enlightenment. This assertion,precisely because there are strangers present. If that's
ofcourse, contravenes extremely ancient andso, the conductor should ask the inquirer to repeat the
well-entrenched beliefs about life after death. As asame name sequence aloud once more. Other times,
result of these widespread beliefs, a lot of people whothe soul is so eager to enter it doesn't wait until the
don't consider themselves formally religious are stillinquirer has finished speaking for the first time. Usually,
secretly convinced that a nonphysical being is bound tothe soul will pass into the circle over the inquirer's right
be enlightened and wise.shoulder, but occasionally the entry point is different. It
These unstated beliefs are why so many peopledoesn't really matter.
conduct their own impromptu seances, hoping toOnce the soul is in the circle, the conductor's job is to
contact some disincarnate master. They'll contactkeep it there by sending additional love straight from
someone, all right. As Clara and Tammy and friendsthe heart. The task of participants other than the
found out, it's really very easy to communicate withconductor or inquirer is to verbalize what is called
disincarnate beings. That's precisely the problem, and itevidential material or trivia. Most souls realize they need
can be devastating. Curiosity-seekers who conductto assure the inquirer of their true identity. They almost
seances without knowing how to protect themselvesimmediately begin sending highly personal and
often end up like Tammy and friend: frightened out ofsometimes very specific information about themselves.
their wits.If the soul in question doesn't know what to do at this
Why? Because they didn't contact anyone enlightenedpoint, participants may ask it for evidential material and
or wise. Instead, they had a close encounter with aexplain why the inquirer needs this information.
disincarnate jerk, a being only too willing to playHow does the soul send information? How do
mind-games with them. Remember, nothing dies butparticipants ask it questions? Simple: via
the physical body. If a person in a mental institution diesthought-energy. The thought-energy of the soul is
in a psychotic state, that condition is unfortunately notreceived as inner visions, vibrations, words, or an
going to change merely because the physical bodyawareness by participants' own four soul or psychic
has stopped functioning. Although no longer in asenses. The way to communicate with the so-called
physical body, that soul will still be psychotic.dead is through what we label intuition without
Keep in mind also that the only valid motive forunderstanding its full implications or its spiritual potential.
offering a healing circle is the desire to be of service,Trusting what they receive through their soul senses is
not for self-aggrandizement or to demonstrate howa real issue for most healing circle participants. There is
truly spiritual you are. A healing circle certainly isn'twidespread ignorance about the soul senses in this
going to convince a skeptic that life exists after death;society, which leads to pervasive and deep-rooted
do not regard it as some sort of experiment. It is nolack of trust in the information that the soul senses
entertainment substitute when the DVDs run out, either.convey. This is why there is a need to teach people
Genuine Need for Healinghow to function as healing circle conductors in the first
Instead, conduct a healing circle only when there is aplace. Provided the conductor is comfortable and
genuine need for healing resolution between a soulconfident with the process, other participants can be
dwelling in a physical body and one that is not--theless assured and still be very helpful.
latter termed "dead" due to society's very limitedIt is vitally important that the conductor emphasize to
understanding. Clara's case is typical; people usuallyother participants except the inquirer that they are to
want to reach someone who has left the physicalverbalize every single piece of information they
world.receive. Do not edit. Again, this is where the inability to
Always keep in mind that while people like Clara willtrust your soul senses can really hamper your efforts.
benefit enormously from a healing circle, there areTime after time, healing circle participants have pulled
many who will not. The motives of the person askinginformation seemingly "out of thin air" about people or
for a healing circle are just as important as theevents that only the inquirer or the soul in question
motives of those conducting it.could have known. Yet they just as often hesitate to
Be careful when screening those who ask for healingsay anything, which can be counterproductive.
circles. Such a person is the inquirer. Hold a healingDuring her session, for example, Clara was finally
circle only for inquirers who genuinely desire healingconvinced of her mother's presence when one of the
resolution. A request is the first guideline. Let an inquirerparticipants talked about seeing a field of red poppies,
like Clara come to you and request a healing circlewaving in the wind. Then another person mentioned a
after you have made it known that you are capablecross; Laura immediately said that she saw a skull.
of conducting one and willing to do so."I knew it was my mother then," Clara explains. "Red
Next, establish that the inquirer has some sort ofpoppies were my mother's flower. She had them all
emotional tie to the departed that is reciprocated. Thisover the house when I was growing up. The Skull of
two-way link can be through kinship or riendship; itAdam forms the base of the Russian Orthodox cross.
doesn't matter and you don't need to know theMy daughter wouldn't know that. She was brought up
precise nature of the relationship. The love connectionPresbyterian."
counts above all else. The emotional bond andThe point? The information the soul is sending is for
recognition are what draw the soul in question to thethe inquirer, not the other participants. That is why it
healing circle participants.often seems strange to participants and they tend to
The preceding is obvious, thinking about it. If you wereshift into their left brains to analyze it. Don't do that.
walking down the street and someone in the middle ofInstead, speak up. The conductor will have informed
a group called out your name, would you respond tothe inquirer before the session begins to respond to
the summons? You might, if you were to recognizeeach piece of information verbalized in one of three
and care about the person calling your name. If youways: "Yes," "No," or "I don't know."
didn't know anyone there, most likely you would ignoreSometimes the soul in question provides information
the call and continue on your way, probably at a littlethat the inquirer isn't sure of or simply doesn't know but
faster clip than before. This is precisely why adoringcan check out later with family or friends.
fans are more likely to contact a deceased ElvisThe second part of a healing circle consists simply of
Presley impersonator rather than the soul that oncegiving the inquirer and the soul the chance to talk to
dwelled in the body of the king of rock and roll. There'seach other, assisted by the other session articipants.
no emotional draw to them on the part of Elvis, even ifThis phase is always very emotional, if for no other
the fans worshipped their idol from afar.reason than the inquirer finally has some evidence that
After an inquirer asks for a healing circle, and after youa loved one thought dead and lost forever is, in fact,
have established a two-way emotional connectionstill living and very much found. The evidence is
between the inquirer and the departed, use yourprovided partly through the trivia, which is necessary to
Intuition. This is another way of saying your psychicsatisfy the left brain.
abilities or four soul senses. Those soul senses can beThe heart, however, is much more open to messages
invaluable in helping your left brain decide whether orfrom the soul. As the second half progresses, inquirers
not this inquirer is seeking a healing circle out of aon their own often begin to pick up thoughts and
genuine desire for healing resolution.especially feelings from the loved one in the circle.
Preparing for the SessionThe joy of such a reunion is impossible to comprehend
Remember, just because someone has asked for aexcept through direct experience. Resolution replaces
healing circle does not obligate you to conduct one.anguish. Tears flow freely from relief, not grief. The
Check into the inquirer's motives carefully. You not onlyhealing spreads from the inquirer and the soul to every
have the right to feel comfortable with the inquirer, youmember of the circle.
actually need to establish some sort of rapport to helpLives Transformed
ensure the success of the session. Do not force aThrough a healing circle, Clara finally made peace with
session down the throat of a person whose fear levelher mother--20 years after her mother's physical body
is too high. If you do, you probably won't get very fardied. Following her session, Clara found that other
because that inquirer will be in a state of heavy denial.areas of her life also were healed. She felt more at
Next, choose a place to conduct the session. Theease with herself and less compelled to be with other
stereotypical seance is held at night, in a small, closedpeople just to avoid being by herself.
room that has little or no light and plenty of darkEqually important to her was that she now had some
corners to hide the special effects apparatus. Youterms for the psychic abilities that were always so
know: the faked floating horns, thumping tables, andnatural to her and her parents."It was a tremendous
disembodied moaning and groaning. It is possible,eye-opener to realize the reality of life after death and
however, to conduct a healing circle at high noon in thethat other people felt this way," Clara says.
middle of a field--if that is what will make the inquirerIronically, it was an unorthodox healing circle that
most comfortable.reconciled Clara to the Russian Orthodox Church,
It's probably easiest to locate the session in the livingwhich she rejoined. "The church is not open to this
room of a house. During the session, keep the curtainssubject, but I'm in a whole different space."
open. If the session is at night, the lights remain on butNow, when Clara makes the sign of the cross and
not glaringly bright.follows other rituals, she's aware of a much deeper,
Arrange enough chairs in a small circle tospiritual dimension to them. The ceremonies now hold a
accommodate all participants. Put a box of tissues onrich and very personal meaning for her. The rites are
the floor in the middle of the circle. They are always inno longer just empty motions, done by rote and
demand after (and many times during) a session tohanded down as someone else's truth.
mop up those healing tears.It's possible to rig up a floating horn or an "ethereal"
The person who issues instructions and keeps thevoice in the dark. Indeed, the left brain can be
healing circle on track is called the conductor. Themanipulated into believing a lot of things, but the heart
conductor invites the remaining participants, who shouldand soul cannot. No one can fake the feelings--the
show up out of love and a desire to be of service toprofound and powerful sense of relief and release that
others, not to be paid for their time.surrounds and embraces the inquirer, the soul, and the
Let's face it: among the general public, the seance hasother participants during a properly conducted healing
a terrible reputation. Some people erroneously regard acircle.
healing circle as a form of devil worship, which it mostIt's the kind of healing that transforms lives forever.
emphatically is not. A lot of people have faked