Ego…friend or Foe?

Many of us become confused at the definition ofto.
egoist versus egotist. Let’s take a moment toWe are the desire to receive, which is the exact
clarify. The key to the differentiation lies in the letteropposite of the Creator. As far from being like the
“T.” If we associate the letter “T” toCreator as possible. This desire to receive, this
talking, then we can more easily remember that theseparation from the Creator, is what creates our
egotist is not shy about his perceived abilities and not“I.”  This sense of “I” is our ego. We feel
cautious in talking about them. These are the peopleeverything inside our skin as “me” and
we judge as full of themselves, unless we are thiseverything outside is not.
person. In that case, we recognize that we areBack to the question of whether the ego is friend or
explaining reality, not embellishing it. foe. Kabbalah explains that it is neither and both. The
The egoist differs in that it represents a person withCreator created us, so we cannot be evil. This was
an ego, which the Encarta Dictionary defines asthe purpose of Creation. But neither is it good in and of
“the part of the mind containing consciousness.”itself. It just is.
In other words, this includes everybody.The concept of good and evil is only pertinent when
Well, if we all have an ego, then it must be a goodwe take a look at the way we use our desire to
thing…right? We value self-confidence, measurereceive. If we use it strictly for our own self-benefit,
self-esteem, promote self-respect and worshipacquiring more and more pleasure just for ourselves,
“individuality.” Is it not fair to say our cultureKabbalah defines it as evil. Our pleasure comes at the
drives us in this direction from an early age? It is aexpense of others.
characteristic of success.The other option is to transform our egoism so that
But is there danger from an overinflated ego?  If itwe attain the altruistic qualities of the Creator and learn
expands too much, will it convert into egotism? Canhow to give unconditionally. The trick is to learn how to
measures be put in place to keep the ego in check noreceive His gifts in order to please Him. Just like when
matter how strong and developed it might become?you go to a dinner party and enjoy the meal. You are
Are people with less ego nicer people? If so, shouldenjoying the food while at the same time giving
we be trying to diminish our ego and strive forpleasure to the person who prepared the food for
eventual elimination?you. How does this manifest in the world around us,
These are interesting questions and a very interestingthough? If we can change our nature so that we
approach can be found in the science of Kabbalah.receive our pleasure from ensuring that other people
Kabbalah tells us that there is a Creator, who is all andreceive what they need, then the ego has been
everything, complete oneness and unity. The Creator istransformed into its “good” aspect – altruism.
a 100% altruistic loving force because, after all, if theThe science of Kabbalah teaches a methodology
Creator is already everything then he lacks nothing.whereby you take the power of the ego and then
The Creator wants nothing but to give pleasure, butbalance it with the altruism of the Creator. Little by little
who will receive this pleasure? For this, he created thewe absorb the altruistic, loving qualities of the Creator.
creature (mankind) and he gave the creature theBy doing so, we have achieved the purpose of our
desire to receive, so he would have someone to giveexistence, and egotism will have lost all power.